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The LATE Men

Are you a man, or do you know a man, who has a tendency to self-sabotage?

The LATE Men are adult men who function like Lost, Angry TEenagers. These men tend to show up late – they’re late to mature as fully functioning adults and late to make or keep commitments. These men tend to self-sabotage, causing relationship distress, and problems at work and at home.

There are several types of LATE Men, and the following traits are prominent:

  • Narcissism – self-absorbed, sometimes grandiose, often entitled and arrogant
  • Identity confusion – a lack of clarity or a consistent and clear sense of self
  • Anger management problems – and they’re often passive-aggressive and defensive
  • Dependency – on wives and family (includes failure-to-launch millennials)
  • Addictions – including pornography, video games, and gambling, along with drugs/alcohol
  • Moodiness, irritability, shame, depression, and anxiety
  • Avoidance – socially and occupationally (often due to insecurity and low self-confidence)

The LATE Men typically come from dysfunctional families – with divorced parents or broken homes, fathers who were emotionally or physically absent, mothers who were over-worked or overprotective, or they were abused emotionally or physically.

Counseling for men, or couple’s therapy with a special focus on male psychology, can help the LATE Men to become the loving, responsible Adults that most men truly want to be.

Recommended reading

The Who's In Charge series is the foundation for understanding the LATE Men concept. The LATE Men articles follow.

Who's in Charge?
A groundwork for understanding The LATE Men.
Who's In Charge in This Relationship
How we relate from our internal parts.
The LATE Men
Adult men as Lost, Angry Teenagers.
The LATE Man in Relationships
How LATE Men do relationship.
The LATE Man Grows Up
From Insufficiency to Integrity
The LATE Men – 5 Reasons Why Men Self-Sabotage
Why LATE Men self-sabotage and hurt others.
Why LATE Men Are Dying Young
Self-Sabotage: The Epidemic
8 Types of LATE Men
Angry, confused, narcissistic, and others.
The LATE Man’s Guide to Understanding Women
Suggestions for positive connection.
COVID-19 and The LATE Men
Why more men have died.

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