Do you know someone who loses control of their anger?
Is there a problem with road rage or other types of rage? Are you easily frustrated or irritated and lose your temper?
Angry feelings are normal, and an appropriate expression of anger can be constructive and healthy.
Modern brain science shows us that anger is a normal response to perceived danger. When the instinctive survival center in the brain (amygdala) is triggered, our immediate response is “fight or flight.” This results in “amygdala highjacking” — the body is flooded with chemicals like adrenaline and we’re off to the races (or the fight!).
Fortunately, we can learn to control — or at least manage — this powerful emotional reaction. Children often learn the earliest form of anger management by observing parents who practice emotional moderation. However, many children are either over-controlled, victimized by angry, abusive parents, or they’re not taught how to manage their emotions properly.
When is anger management necessary?
Current research indicates that anger is necessary and productive — for survival, motivation, ambition and leadership. There are three primary indications that anger is out of control, potentially destructive, and that anger management is necessary:
- Aggressive, explosive physical behavior
- Physical abuse, fighting, bullying behavior
- Road rage
- Destruction of objects or property
- Verbally abusive behavior
- Angry yelling and screaming at others
- Frequent harsh criticism or name calling
- Frequent heated arguments
- Work, school, and relationship problems due to angry behavior
- Arguments with co-workers or classmates
- Repeated episodes of fighting, verbally or physically, with friends, family, partner or spouse
- Angry defensive or argumentative behavior toward others
Anger management is easy to learn and highly effective.
The specialists at the Relationship Center of South Florida have the tools you need for practicing anger management. Our counseling for anger management is based on proven methods, including:
- Finding and using your “internal anger barometer”
- Mindfulness training and related techniques (breathing and relaxation exercises)
- CBT (Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy); changing anger-producing thoughts and beliefs
- Solution Oriented Therapy; changing the “rules of the game”
- Assertiveness Training; appropriate, constructive communication of anger