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Take This 5 Minute Test

By Richard J. Loebl, LCSW, BCD

Are You Self-Destructive?

What Can be Done?

Are you a man who undermines his own success? Do you hurt your relationships with others? Is there a pattern of self-destructive behavior? Take this five-minute test to determine if you have a problem with self-sabotage. And find out what you can do to reverse course and create success and well-being in your life.

Rate the likeliness of each statement from 0-10. Each statement applies to the workplace, interpersonal relationships, and other situations.

0 = Never, not at all
5 = Frequent behavior pattern
10 = Daily pattern

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Avoidance and passivity. This includes procrastination, not taking responsibility, and neglecting commitments. Also, emotional disconnection from others, a lack of awareness or confusion, and inability to identify or express emotion. Also includes feelings of shame, self-doubt, insecurity, and jealousy of others.



Impulsive, compulsive, and other extreme behavior patterns. May include addictions, workaholism, gambling, excessive risk-taking behavior (reckless driving, risky investments, etc.), self-injurious sports activities, and refusal to follow rules or laws.



Sexual misbehavior. Inappropriate sexual advances, harassment, excessive sexual Demands, sexual addictions, and sexually objectifying others. May also include sexual inhibitions, reluctance or refusal to participate in a healthy sexual relationship.



Poor self-care. Physically unhealthy or self-destructive behavior includes smoking and misuse of other tobacco products; excessive alcohol or drug consumption; poor nutrition or diet; lack of exercise, ignoring health problems and avoidance of regular doctor or dentist visits.